a strong antagonistic nature of antagonistic pairs of children's psychological development, daily study and life are harmful, if left unchecked, will likely result in children's mental defects, serious or even affect the future life, study and work. therefore, clear understanding of the substance of rebellious, to help children to overcome the rebellious, for the parents is very important.
the child's psychological characteristics mainly as follows: first, a strong sense of independence, showing a high desire, like putting in distress when they always want to express a unique insight to make an unusual move, in order to get attention, to demonstrate its independent personality. the second is the psychological curiosity. psychologists believe that when something is disabled, it is easy to arouse people's curiosity and thirst for knowledge. especially in the prohibition only without any explanation of the circumstances, a strong mystery more cause for speculation. those "young people should not get" the film and television advertising is the use of young people curious about psychology, so as to achieve to attract more young people to watch purposes. the third is the psychological opposite. once among people hold negative attitude, but also on his view, behavior negative attitude. for example teachers are less advanced students always criticize and backward on the teacher said the students could not listen to the words of cynicism among the general. fourth, extreme psychological. during adolescence, children social experience shallow, still quite a lack of knowledge to see if the problem is too simple, or even very one-sided, often focusing on one point less than the rest, but for this complacency.
強烈的逆反性、對抗性對孩子的心理髮育、日常學習和生活都是有害的，如果任其發展，將有可能造成孩子的心理缺陷，嚴重的甚至會影響將來的生活、學習和工作。因此，認清逆反心理的實質，幫助孩子克服逆反心理，對父母來説是非常重要的。
孩子的心理特點主要表現為：一是獨立意識強，表現慾望高，喜歡標新立異，遇事總想發表獨特的見解，做出異乎尋常的舉動，以期引起別人的注意，顯示其獨立的個性。二是好奇心理。心理學家認為，當某事物被禁止時，很容易引起人們的好奇心和求知慾。尤其是在只作出禁止而又不作出任何解釋的情況下，濃厚的神祕色彩更易引起人們的猜測。那些“青少年不宜”的影視廣告就是利用青少年的好奇心理，從而達到吸引更多的青少年去觀看的目的。三是對立心理。人與人之間一旦持有否定的態度，也會對他的觀點、行為持否定態度。比如老師對後進學生總是批評，後進學生就可能對老師説的話都聽不進去而產生逆反情緒。四是偏激心理。處於青春期的孩子社會閲歷淺、知識面還相當缺乏，看問題過於簡單，甚至相當片面，往往攻其一點，不及其餘，卻為此沾沾自喜。